Dear second child

My dear second child, you will hear us tell people we wanted you as company and companion for our first. We didn’t want our first to be alone. The truth is, our family didn’t feel complete without you. We wanted you and worked so hard to have you because we knew we aren’t whole without you.

You would have thought that your entry into the world might be different. No covid restrictions after all. You and your mom were destined to be alone. Perhaps it is the most special time we will ever get to spend. You came into our lives and I became a mom of two. Perhaps we needed that alone time to discover ourselves, together.

You will probably never know the love and delight us and our friends and family feel at your arrival. Your presence may always seem overshadowed by the needs of your older sibling. You may never know the toys that were meant for you as your older brother has claimed them to be his. You may never know what it’s like to have over worried parents fuss over every turn/ sound you make.

My dear second child, remember there would be no first without you.

I want to assure you, you were and are wanted. You are loved and coveted. You are cherished! You are the missing piece to our puzzle. You are the harmony our lives seek. It may all seem a bit bizarre to you, but eventually you will know that without you there is no us!