I refer to her as the crazy Chinese lady that I lived with in my last year in U.K. I was very unhappy then and I had hoped that I would never cross paths with her. Over the years however I often reflect to that period of my life. I wonder about the choices I made then and what I could have done differently. I, to this date don’t understand why I never moved out of that accommodation especially since I was very unhappy. Surprisingly enough, I have heard myself give the crazy Chinese lady credit when I get complimented on good housekeeping, getting along with people, my ability to make no noise and life in general. I have sent her new year cards since I left U.K and was very happy to receive her note congratulating me on my wedding. I have added her on Fb and we have been exchanging notes. Funnily enough I feel that on another day or time she and I would actually make good friends.
I wonder if we are obligated to add people when they send us a friend invite. I have recently adopted a policy, that I wont add anyone who I haven’t met before. I don’t add people who I don’t want anything to do with. I don’t add people who I didn’t keep in touch with for a reason. I don’t add people who stopped keeping in touch with me for a reason. Some people I know and I am friends with and I still wont add. A friend who cannot stand the idea of social sites and the nuisance that comes with it, realised the potential of FB to reconnect with people. I didn’t add her, because I felt we didn’t need a site to be “friends”. I felt we can be in touch by other means of communication. I often get asked about this particular friend by common friends and I realize that the only insight I have into her life is what she tells me on our occassional phone conversations. I wonder if I should be concerend about our limited communication or the fact that I am very comfortable with it?