Any big event like a wedding comes with good, bad; happy moments and sad ones; memories you want to keep for life, memories you wish you never had to make. Amongst everything that happened or didn’t there are somethings I am very grateful for.
My mother-in-law met me 4 days before the wedding. She made every effort to surpass language and culture barrier. All she asked of me was to keep her only child happy. She made me feel like the daughter she never had and gave me small pieces of advice that I know will go a long way in my future with her son. I am very thankful for her warm acceptance and ofcourse her son.
I gave 4 weeks notice to my parents to get married. They were happy, positive and very supportive. They met my fiance 4 days before the wedding and loved him instantaneously. I don’t know if that is possible. I do know they accepted him well. They respected his decision and mine to want to be together. I know my mother is very happy for me. I sense it every time I speak with her. I am thankful she is happy.
4 weeks notice to my parents meant even lesser notice to friends and family. While some family left no stone unturned to be there by our side, some gave my parents a lot of grief. I didn’t really care for them much, but I was very sad my parents were being subjected to such nonsense because of me. On one of my worst days before the wedding, a friend sniffed out what was cooking and demanded to be there. He even threatened to gate-crash and told me exactly what days he wouldn’t be in Mumbai lest I needed to change my wedding day. His enthusiasm and affection made my day and lifted my spirits. He made me smile. I never got to thank him. I wasn’t even a good host to him on my day. I am just very thankful I have such a friend in him.
A lot of people got left out during the wedding. Part of it was due to time constraints, some of it was because of bad planning and others due to oversight. None of the ones that matter gave me any grief. People understood the situation, they congratulated me, remained patient with unanswered mails and messages . Some people even left gifts. I am thankful to know such amazing, understanding, patient, supportive and lovely people.
I have had a lot of support before and after my wedding. Getting into a commitment wasn’t easy for me. I was scared and very skeptical. I got positivity and support from a lot of people. I was told nothing will come easy. Getting married is not an extended party. I had friends and family give me good advice, bring in positive attitude and show me; after all the madness called an Indian wedding, I have a man to be with that I love very much. I am thankful at the end of those few very crazy days, I am beginning to build a wonderful life ahead of me.