A few years ago I decided to attend a friend’s wedding. Friends do such things. Normally. Except I hadn’t spoken to this friend for some years. We had drifted apart as friends and I had nothing left in common with her. Ego and misunderstanding can do irreparable damage to relationships. Even very good and strong ones. I wasn’t even invited by her but her mother. I was sad that we had reached a point that she did not even want me at her wedding. Or care.
I decided to go. I knew or atleast hoped that this was the only wedding my friend would have. If I didn’t make it to this one, I would have missed one in a lifetime moment. I knew she was busy, anxious, nervous and everything else that a person would feel just before getting married. I also knew that I had shared more good than bad with her. I knew I missed my friend and I wanted to be a part of her big day in whatever small way I could.
My ego was something I had control over. Sometimes people don’t have control over things. Jobs, visa, travel time, money, bosses, but most importantly will-power. That doesn’t come easy. Making an effort for someone else is even harder. Sharing someone else’s happiness as a priority does not even strike most people. Not making enough effort is easy, especially in the day and time when doing everything is also not enough.