How do you let the new dawn on the old..

When making new ones, one has to keep in mind the old.

Building on a new relationship requires a lot of hard work. Right from being pretty to well-behaved to being yourself and not so pretty there comes in a lot of in-betweens. Time is consumed, emotions are exhausted, and effort continues to be endless. In the interim what happens to the old relationships? No matter how hard you try, equations change. It is natural, I believe.

How does one handle that change?

Do you force on other people’s sensibilities? Are you considerate that the old in your life also needs to come to terms with the new in your life? Should you care? Are you required to care? Is it okay to hope that the old will understand? How much do they understand?  Can they, if you don’t communicate with them?

Do we owe it to people who have been our friends, backbones, and just been around because they chose to? Or can we leave behind the old to make the new work?

My question is, will the new work if we forgot about the old?

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8 responses to “How do you let the new dawn on the old..

  1. D

    If the old do not understand you want the new, does it matter whether they are in your life or not?

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  2. I doubt it will. It might work for some time, as perhaps against our perceptions, but eventually the lessons learnt always help. 🙂

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  3. D:
    You mean the old or the new? If for one disagreement we are ready to leave our old relationships behind, I really wonder how much justice we can do to the new that we bring into our lives.

    Rohit:
    That is what I have been thinking. Thanks for your input. Always precious.

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  4. I like the format of the post, but too many Qs! As it is, we seem to have lesser control over these things, at least make one person happy. Yourself!

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  5. “Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are. ”

    – Coelho

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  6. Gaizabonts:
    Thank you, and thank you again. While I think “I” am important to me, I don’t think one can go ahead without taking into consideration the past. A strong foundation and /or strong backbone ensures a strong future. I agree, there are too many questions. But in those questions I find my answers.

    Abaniko:
    Hmm! I would hope Mr Coelho and I have different perspectives through which we talk.

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  7. There are no guarantees for anything gurl. The sooner you accept it, the stronger you become.

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  8. i have never been a believer of “start fresh”. avoid problems, fix the ones that are there and keep going forward and carry the learning. new mistakes are ok but dont make the same mistakes 🙂 if there are too many Q’s maybe stop it right there and get off the carousel. no point going round and round. maybe the water rides are better.

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