The one thing I have realized about myself is the determination I show when I take on a project. Some times I can be mad about it. Like calling some one endless times just to prove a point to myself more than them. But that point is well seated in a deep corner of my head. The kind of corner that responds to recall triggers most efficiently. Lest I forget.
So when I decided I was going to find myself a husband, I really didn’t know what I was up for. Here is what I did. I first found several of close friends and family who have actually found a partner on the existing sites. I gathered a data base of expectations that people have from the opposite party. I tried and analyzed the perceptions people create when they read profiles.
I registered myself at 4 marriage sites. I zealously wrote about myself. My passion for my work. My love for theater and travel. My interest in cooking. About my personality, habits, expectations. I was being honest.
However, being honest is not the smartest move in this game; I find. This is after all catalog shopping for a mate. Considering there are parents, siblings and potential suitors all reading your profile, it has to be tailor made to catch their eye. The profile has to appear non threatening.
A week into this project and I have re-written my profile. A part of me is torn between finding a man who will take me for who I am. The other part wants to win this game on it’s own terms. Those terms don’t work in the favour of independent, opinionated, career-oriented honest women I have to sadly say. But then again if I am all of that and more I am determined not to let the system get to me. I will get to the system.