Rewriting myself.

The one thing I have realized about myself is the determination I show when I take on a project. Some times I can be mad about it. Like calling some one endless times just to prove a point to myself more than them. But that point is well seated in a deep corner of my head. The kind of corner that responds to recall triggers most efficiently. Lest I forget.

So when I decided I was going to find myself a husband, I really didn’t know what I was up for. Here is what I did. I first found several of close friends and family who have actually found a partner on the existing sites. I gathered a data base of expectations that people have from the opposite party. I tried and analyzed the perceptions people create when they read profiles.

I registered myself at 4 marriage sites. I zealously wrote about myself. My passion for my work. My love for theater and travel. My interest in cooking. About my personality, habits, expectations. I was being honest.

However, being honest is not the smartest move in this game; I find. This is after all catalog shopping for a mate. Considering there are parents, siblings and potential suitors all reading your profile, it has to be tailor made to catch their eye. The profile has to appear non threatening.

A week into this project and I have re-written my profile. A part of me is torn between finding a man who will take me for who I am. The other part wants to win this game on it’s own terms. Those terms don’t work in the favour of independent, opinionated, career-oriented honest women I have to sadly say. But then again if I am all of that and more I am determined not to let the system get to me. I will get to the system.

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4 responses to “Rewriting myself.

  1. Duhita

    Is it time I re-write mine as well? ūüėÄ

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  2. Duhita:
    That is some thing only you can answer for yourself.

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  3. hmm.
    the eternal profile. the subtle blend of intelligent, sexy, homely, good looking and devoted. don’t write it the third time around, let me do it for you.

    i cannot promise you the best suitor, but the most interesting, certainly.

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  4. Phish:
    Wont re-write again. Not just yet! If I ever have to, you’ve got yourself a project.

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