I am back in India and the pressure to get married is on. I always feel the heat and the discomfort being around people who reckon there must be some thing wrong with me physically emotionally or psychologically for being perfectly happy and content with my single hood.
The more I converse with those that are married and those that are not; I am convinced now is not the right time for me to tie the knot. Dating is not really an option for me in India as I don’t know what the norms here are. I can work on that but I feel too old for it. I am made to feel too old at 30.
Every six months or so I have re analyse my position in the marriage scene. Some things don’t seem to have changed. Tall, beautiful, slim, homely, career oriented, traditional values who will migrate with a precious son still appear in advertisements, websites, and what have you.
Having spoken to my guy friends, it isn’t easy for them either. The expectations, demands and haughtiness that they have to endure to find a girl who they are happy just ” talking to” is becoming a huge task.When no one is happy with the arranged marriage scene either through papers, websites or through another person I don’t know how come the society has not been able to abolish the practice.
People who aren’t married wish to bite the dust and those who have, warn me against hastening in making a decision. My own flowery ideas about being with another human being are long abolished.
I have seen separation, divorce, adultery, remarriages from close quarters. The upper middle class society is no longer untouched by the side effects of modernisation, economic independence, migration to western worlds. Parents who have been left behind are fighting hard to keep abreast.
I have managed to convince my parents that I don’t want a big wedding. For economical and political reasons. if they take pride in feeding 500 mouths, I would rather they feed the deprived and thankful. For now my parents have asked me to make good use of the websites they have paid money into. So this summer I am going to be busy finding me a husband. I am going to plan my dot.com wedding.