Saying it out loud.

In spite of all the means of communication we have at our disposal I find that humans have really bad communication skills. It is very hard for a lot of us to speak what is on our minds. This handicap could simply be because we don’t know how to articulate our thoughts. Or it could be just that we too aren’t very sure of what we want to say.

The fear of looking bad can be a deterrent in expressing our feelings. Worse still when we do gather the courage to open up a good samaritan explains to us how we got it all wrong and why our anger or frustration is not in the right place.

Claustrophobia can occur in open spaces. I now understand how. It is unfortunate that we have to calculate the risk and benefits of free speech. The risk of crossing one’s line plays a far more dominant role than one’s ability to take in all the emotions.

If you didn’t get the idea behind this post. I just proved my point. All these words and no concrete message. πŸ™‚



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16 responses to “Saying it out loud.

  1. and if we do (get the point), then?


  2. Gaizabonts:
    I will know you have been where I have just walked by.


  3. being tactful is important too … no?


  4. been there, then! πŸ™‚


  5. Mowgli:
    Which is exactly my point.We know how to be tactful. Too much at that. Why can’t we just have plain simple honest conversation. Heart to heart kinds?



  6. well…..
    apart from the fact that,
    most ppl dont know what they are really going to be saying(which is one reason they get it out all wrong)….and that clear precise thought is required to deliver a honest and uncomplicated statement..
    some ppl just don’t like to say it out loud..they are happy with it in their head…
    yea but once we get it out we have to be aware or at least prepared or both for the consequences…viz..over stepping the line, finding out that ur horrendously wrong, or just the u really upset somebody…

    well freedom comes with its responsibilities…they say..
    i guess its the same way with FREEDOM OF SPEECH….

    i think it will be too presumptuous on my part to say..that i understood all of what u had to say…but i’ve used a whole lot of words here…lets hope i’ve “said it out loud” clear πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰


  7. well one needs to shout, scream, whatever when occasion calls for … I think problem is sometimes some people do not know which occasion calls for what or over do something …


  8. i like the simple honest conversation, but u can’t have that with everyone..maybe u need simple honest people to have it with…people who are able to look at things objectively, not emotionally….but then, what is life without the warped complexities and misunderstandings? πŸ™‚


  9. Rishi

    I think more than our lack of expression power its our lack of interpretation. We are mostly too caught up in our thoughts that we interpret them in our own way. Really listening to what other is trying say takes an effort which most of us don’t put. Then again, one can always argue thats, in a way, lack of putting it out clearly. πŸ™‚

    >>All these words and no concrete message.

    does word have to have a message, always? πŸ™‚ some words are just for us to understand.


  10. alexthecat

    I’ve come to believe that the greatest communication skill is the ability to listen.


  11. My silly cat wrote the above before I could.


  12. i believe you are right, if you said this. i am in the business of selling words. sometimes, not. what?


  13. er….what did you say…what are you trying to hint at….are you ok…. πŸ™‚


  14. Sneha:
    I appreciate the effort in your response. You help me make my view point clearer. There is no need for long convoluted sentences or thought processes. We can could try and make better use of the words to be concise and clear.

    Like someone in my family always tells me,, choose the battles you want to fight. I agree.There is a place and time for everything.

    A simple life? πŸ˜›

    Though you are correct, I am really talking about expressing ourselves. How ever since conversation and communication are way complicated and complex phenomenon than we comprehend, any weak link can cause a problem. I agree not every thing needs to stand for some thing. One should excerise the freedom of thought.

    Welcome to my blog. πŸ™‚

    Hey there, how are you doing?

    Hmmm. πŸ™‚

    Yeah! why would you think some thing is wrong?


  15. Yes, you’re right. Maybe we’re too much focussed on what the other person speaks(or we ourselves speak). Many times our non-verbal clues and gestures sing a different tune although we ‘speak’ the opposite.
    And most of the useful communication happens, not in speech, but in its absence, in silence!
    ‘…calculate the risks and benefits of free speach’–spot on!


  16. Vishwa:
    If only expressing ourselves didn’t sound so complicated.


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