It always amazes me when I meet people by chance after several months or years, only end up telling me that they have had issues with me. A grudge carried for all that while. A bone to pick with me. Or some one else for that matter.
My first thought is why didn’t they bring it up when things had actually gone bad. Why wait for all that time to pass by. Did they not want to sort things out at that time. What stopped them from coming out in the open. If they still think of it, after all this time it must be important enough to them. If it was that important how come they didn’t do anything about it.
It is never easy having a difficult conversation. But don’t you think sometimes it is essential. If you want to keep that relationship, wouldn’t you want to come clean?
I can understand wanting time off. I think that is a huge relationship saving concept. But don’t people realise that may be this person that you are upset with is actually giving you time off because they have no clue what is wrong and are only giving you space and time because they think that is what you need. They would love to help, but you really have to let them.
Then time passes by, and so does life. People move on. You would hope that they would too. Only to be confronted after eons have passed by. But really who is accountable for the void? The gaps? The lack of communication? The loss of a friendship? The uncomfortable silences? The confusion? The pain?
Honestly, if you didn’t do anything about it then, then leave it now.Do everyone a favour and let go of the grudges. Life is too short, to burn so much oxygen over bygones.