I am a woman.
Question is what really makes me a woman?My monthly hormonal cycles?My birthing capacity? Sex needs to be associated with a degree of emotional involvement.My thrills at shopping?My need to be loved? Cared for?Cajoled?My aesthetic sense?My desire for beautiful things?
Really? Is that good enough to qualify me as the weaker sex?Fairer sex?
I don’t know about weaker or fairer, but different I’ll accept.Physically, chemically, emotionally,even our genetic make up.Being called weaker beats me, considering genetically we are the stronger between the two of us.Yes sweetie you didn’t know that now did you?
I am not oblivious to child marriages,infanticides,rapes,family oppressions, suppressions,eve-teasing.I consider that a disease.Just like TB, HIV, malaria.It plagues our society and we need to eradicate it.
I don’t see myself as weak.As any less competent.As any less capable.I don’t think I was given any fewer chances and I don’t think the world is really big and bad out there that I need special protection.
I have come to realise, men women all fight their battles.All compete, some less fairly than others.And really who do you think is taking advantage of what?
So men stare, and no not at my face.But what does a woman do.She completely scrutinizes you, even shows her disapproval at the not so recently manicured feet.I am not trying to belittle the issue here.
How ever women fighting for women’s rights irritate me.Yeah you heard that right.Did you? I didn’t say women’s cause.Please mark my words.Fighting for a cause is like ensuring a prevention programme.Always good for the plague.
I can’t stand some women especially the kind who sit on a high chair and shout out loud, because they think it is fashionable to do so.Those that weren’t ever faced with repression owing to the fact that they were females.I hear them cry out the loudest.
They just irritate me.If anything I feel those very women take us back a 100 years in civilisation, not to mention show disrespect to all the previous generations of women who have actually fought to get us where we are today.
I can list so many women,in so many fields that have made it big.I can go on a roll of my role models.I don’t think that is necessary.Look around and you will find a woman who has done well.So I am aware of ill representation, but work hard and get there.Don’t ask or expect just because you are woman.There should be more to you than your extra X chromosome to get you where you want to be.I say it so uncompassionately, because I am confident you can.
Asking for reservations/quotas/a preferences, makes me feel like I have some sort of handicap.Since when has being a woman been a handicap, you tell me?
ps:I write this out today, because it is an issue that has been bothering me for the longest time ever.I’ve had such contradicting views, that I needed some clarity and hence the jottng down of thoughts.