A conversation with a friend not so long ago got me thinking.Am I becoming a very asocial person? I don’t think so.
I left home at a not so young age.I did leave a very protected environment.And I have never got that back.Now I don’t want it back.I enjoy my freedom.I enjoy taking care of me.I also enjoy my solitude.
She said, I am not a very social person.I would survive, without many people around me. She thinks, my going for a film alone or eating out alone, are freaky.
I can’t be bothered to wait for people to materialize their plans to go and watch a film.I enjoy movies too much to let go of a good film for some one else.Think about it, a whole tub of pop corn to yourself.That is precious.You don’t have to accompany your girlfriends to the loo, and you don’t have to wait alone while your rude friends choose a smoke over your precious company during the break.
I think what stops people, is the fear of what others will think about them.What a loser haan? Who cares? I don’t. How does it matter to me what some stranger who I don’t know, wont ever know, thinks about me.And even if I did know them, I still wouldn’t care.Think about it, when you go for the movies, how often do you scan around the theatre, to look for that odd loner?
I would agree if some one said eating out alone in a restaurant is kinda tough.I don’t think so, but then again I might be a loony psychopath.I started venturing out alone when I came back from the hostel after 5 years to my city.Most of my friends were gone.The remaining few just didn’t know how to strike a balance between work, boyfriends and me.So much had changed in my city.I had become more adventurous.I wanted to enjoy my city.I would go to the new malls springing all over by myself.If I found an new, inviting restaurant, I would go in for a meal.I quite enjoyed it actually.One does tend to get more attention.I don’t know if it is out of pity, or amusement.People are just nice.
Try a new bar.Order a cocktail.Enjoy your drink.Or go to this new restaurant which promises a fantastic gastronomic experience.Order some thing you have never tried before.Eat to your content.Even order a pudding.Trust me, it is an experience.
Even in company, I believe it is upto us to enjoy.It is upto us to make the most of what one is doing.So why do we always need some one else to be there. Don’t get me wrong.I enjoy and make good company. I do enjoy my friends here.But I don’t see lack of company stopping me from doing what I feel like doing.
So while mates, girl friends, boy friends are essential for a lovely evening out, I do think one should go out with themselves once in a while.You would be surprised to find what lovely company you make.