06.29.06
Regrets..
I have been thinking a lot about what Casablanca said. She wondered why so many people around her have no regrets and she had so many.
Do I really have no regrets like I proclaim? Am I a 100% happy with the choices I made.Do I ever wonder what life would have been like had I chosen differently.I do some times ponder..
Would I be in a better place if I had taken that Singapore Airlines Scholarship, which came through by chance, rather than staying back in Bombay.
Would I be in a different place had I chose one suburban junior college over the other.
Would my life be kicking ass, if I had given up on medicine and taken pharmacy like a lot of people had adviced.
Would I be with M I had not decided against meeting him in Nepal.
Would life treat me differently if I had stuck on Surgery rather than taking on the challenge of Internal Medicine.
Would I still be talking to him, if I hadn’t made that promise to his fiance.
Would I have a 2 year rotation if I didn’t put my faith in Epsom.
Would I be in this system if I had given up on Internal Medicine to do Psychiarty or Paediatrics.
Would I be better prepared to face reality if I hadn’t fallen in love with the virtual.
Would my family be happier if I had gone to the US before coming to UK.
Would I have been wiser had I listened to them, than followed my own heart…
I don’t know.At each step I made my choices.Those who mattered stood bye me.Some times, I do wish I didn’t have to make them.But I did.I know I cannot go back at any one of them, even if I wanted to.So what is the point of regrets?We do what we have to do, when we are made to them.Time doesn’t wait for anybody.It moves on.And so should we. Tough I know, but I doubt most times we have a choice.
WishfulThinker said,
June 29, 2006 at 6:37 pm
Its time for beer babe. It is. And then everything will make sense.
Casablanca said,
June 29, 2006 at 7:28 pm
I am chatting with you as I type this, so you already know my feelings about this post. But you really did make me realise that what happens, was meant to happen, so no point in regretting our decisions!
*hugs*
apy said,
June 29, 2006 at 7:34 pm
i dont think so.. remmeber .. wat eva happens happens fr good… keep faith… i don think there could have been a better life than what you have right now….
educatedunemployed said,
June 29, 2006 at 8:17 pm
Wishfulthinker:
I do think I could do with some right about now.:)
Casablanca:
With life being tough already I doubt we want the burden of regret.Hugs to you too girl.
Apy:
Well I do have the faith, and that is what I was trying to say,I live with my decisions, and with dignity I might add.
Anonymous said,
June 30, 2006 at 12:11 am
Well…life’s a game of choices, consciously or not almost ever moment we do make choices in whatever we do/think. Without choices life would become monotonous and everyone would be vying for the same thing!
-Vishy
Atul Sabnis said,
June 30, 2006 at 3:46 am
Cheers!
Duhita said,
June 30, 2006 at 8:24 am
I do believe that we should not regret on the choices we have made because they probably have made us what we are today and in the long run something better is in store for us (or so I would LOVE to believe!). But yes everynow and then (frequency mysteriously is proportional with age) I sit down and wonder too what would life have been like if I made different decisions. You are not alone and that is not regret I suppose, just remembering the good times maybe:)
sb said,
June 30, 2006 at 12:02 pm
paraphrasing from a movie: I wouldn’t want to do anything over because if i did, I wouldn’t have learnt how to make things right.
from 13 going on 30…the movie was soooo cute..like candy for the brain
educatedunemployed said,
June 30, 2006 at 1:25 pm
Vishy:
I agree.:)
Atul Sabnis:
Didn’t have that beer, but thanks.
Duhita:
I do wonder some times of another life that could have been, but I have no regrets.I am at quite a happy place.I doubt I would feel the sense of acievement that I do, if I hadn’t made the choices that I made.
SB:
Some thing Thomas Eddison said, I wouldn’t know what to do next, if this experiment works, but I do have a 1000 back up plans.My life is such.:)
Oh yeah that was a fun chick flick..:)
greensatya said,
June 30, 2006 at 2:07 pm
Not having regrets does not mean not regretting your OWN decisions. I guess when we make decisions we all stand by it.
Our life is not only decided by our own decisions but many things extraneous. So regrets are most of time for those.
educatedunemployed said,
June 30, 2006 at 2:56 pm
Greensatya:
I agree, with having to make decisons based on circumstances and the resources available then.A lot of what I have done and not done is solely because my parents have stood by me no matter what.Had I not had them, I wouldn’t be where I am.I also know not many people get that luxury.
True, we don’t and cannot live life at our whims and fancy, because if we could I should have been in Florence right about now, but I am not.We have to make priorities, we have to know where we want to get.Some times put practicality before passion.
So many times, we wish the circumstances were different and we could have done things differently if not our way.I agree.
But I don’t see how regretting one’s own decision will rid you of not having regrets?
My point is, I did what I did then because that is the best I thought of it then.That moment has passed, and only if I have learnt from what happened then can I make a wiser choice now.
educatedunemployed said,
June 30, 2006 at 2:56 pm
Ill be happy to explain if I didnt make sense there.:)
greensatya said,
June 30, 2006 at 5:14 pm
EU, I totally got what you mean to say. You meant to say that your decisions were the best possible option at *that* point in time.
so there is no question of regretting, hence no regrets in life.
I agree with this.
But sometimes our life is affected by someone else’s decision as well and that may leave lot of room for regrets.
So I still think “I have no regrets in life” is bit unsubstantiated.
I am not sure if I made sense or I am correct. But that’s the way I feel.
Gangadhar said,
June 30, 2006 at 6:32 pm
I’m new to your blog..And it’s nice to know about you,Doctor!!
educatedunemployed said,
July 1, 2006 at 1:44 am
Greensatya:
I do get what you mean, and glad you understand me.My long convoluted sentences dont always makes sense:)
I see where you are coming from.I would still say, if at all you do have regrets about anything, anything at all, at point of time B for what happened at point A, not necessarily because of your decisions, do you really think you can go back to point A and change things?Just a thought.
Gangadhar:
I am glad you are happy about me being a doctor,a lot of people don’t like my lot.
The Girl Who Sold The World said,
July 1, 2006 at 3:58 pm
Whoa, whoa, WHOA! Gee wiz…I think regretting can go and on and on. There’s no end to it. But then, it won’t help, would it? A better thing would be to just stay happy with the life that you have right now rather than think about the past.
(No offence to the pharmacists here…please don’t kill me. :P)
And doctors rock.
And here’s what an amazing poet had to say about regrets:
“Of all sad words of tongue and pen/The saddest are these- it might have been”.
-Toru Dutt
By the way, hiiiii! Me first time here…what does your blog title mean?
Rohit Talwar said,
July 1, 2006 at 7:33 pm
I can keep regretting, regretting, regretting… And no, I’ve never had choices.
Kapil said,
July 2, 2006 at 1:17 am
we cannot think beyond the choices we don’t understand ..
Sometimes Saintly Nick said,
July 2, 2006 at 6:01 am
I find regretting something a peculiar and usually non-beneficial activity. The choices I have made through my life—relationship, careers, heath, etc.—have brought me to where and who I am today. I have spent time in reflecting on those choices, hopefully learning from them, but seldom regretting them. I have learned that the energy I can spend in regretting what I have done in the past is better spent living in the present.
educatedunemployed said,
July 2, 2006 at 3:30 pm
TGWSTW:
Quite rightly said.Thanks for sharing the lines and I think doctors rock too.*High five*.
The title of this blog,originates in the musical Marry Poppins,but it basically means no one needs a proper word to strike a conversation.The word per se has no meaning.
Rohit:
Didn’t you read my post?I said there is no point in having regrets.Move on.So should you.:)
Kapil:
True that.
SometimesSaintlyNick:
So true about the energy spent.I have come to believe that too.Some one once told me when we beat our ourselves at what we have done, we actually rob off our energies from actually dealing with the real issue.So one has got to channelise their energy correctly.
Obi Wan said,
July 3, 2006 at 10:28 am
As the great Lord Budhha said.”Every decision is right, at the point at which it is taken!” Nobody willingly/consciously makes a wrong choice! So logically, regret doesn’t make sense. But then, what does???
educatedunemployed said,
July 3, 2006 at 4:28 pm
Obiwan:
Hmm.
Sayesha said,
July 4, 2006 at 6:42 am
Nice one
Life’s really too short for regretting what you did not do or could not have… we make our own decisions, and we gotta stand by them… even if they turn out to be not the right ones…