06.20.06
Understanding Vs Understanding
Just when I can do with some support, you walk away, because you want me to be strong. I understand.
Relationships are a balance between give and take, benefits and risk.I am begining to understand.
There is constant lies being told,truth hidden and distorted, in the hope that someday I will appreciate the bigger truth.I fail to understand.
Just when things are looking up, you want to give up.You want me to understand?
The closer I feel to you, the farther you think your place is.I don’t understand.
I have been an adult for longer than I had bargained for.I want to be a child sometimes. You don’t seem to understand.
I expect loyalty, and passion in my relationships.That is so much more important to me than ’socially acceptable behaviour’. Could you ever understand that about me?
When I decide to get into some thing, I do so fully.I will make every effort to see that till the end.You fail to understand.
I can’t stand pretence or superficiality, and definitely don’t do well with hypocrisy.Do you understand?
Sometimes I just want you to let me be. Whether you understand or not, at this point,I don’t really care.
Addendum:
What are our definitions of a relationship?Ever heard about the transactional analysis and dynamic realtionship between Parent adult and child?
Define your relationships before you think of what effect this post has on you? I am not necessarily talking about a guy and a girl and a romantic relationship.Just thought you would like to know.
greensatya said,
June 20, 2006 at 9:38 pm
This relationship concept is so esoteric. Wish I could get it in easy terms.
I guess the only time it is peaceful to be in a relationship is when you don’t need the relationship. The moment one got dependent for anything - it is begining of getting hurt.
WishfulThinker said,
June 20, 2006 at 9:52 pm
I think I gave up trying to understand anything that happens between two people of the opposite sex a long, long time ago. *sigh*
Archster said,
June 20, 2006 at 10:08 pm
hahahaha at WT’s comment! so true dude
yeah, i can ‘understand’ that! its so unfair that it all starts out so well and easy and turns into such a big mess.
and now abt the post!
hmm! let me see though…
educatedunemployed said,
June 21, 2006 at 3:50 am
Greensatya:
And that would be idealistic or atleast unrealistic to not want or get dependant on some one.So is one always doomed to be hurt?
Wishfulthinker:
And you really want me to play along with this one?:D
Archster:
I don’t know about unfair but it sure gets harsh.
WishfulThinker said,
June 21, 2006 at 10:30 am
‘Course dude!!! Really!!! I meant every word I said!!!
Casablanca said,
June 21, 2006 at 1:30 pm
I sometimes dont want to understand… I just want to be understood.
educatedunemployed said,
June 21, 2006 at 2:55 pm
Wishfulthinker:
Dude?????Huh?huh?huh?, no wonder you don’t get it.:p
Casablanca:
Right now, I’d pass even that.:(
Atul Sabnis said,
June 21, 2006 at 5:51 pm
ah…TA and those nearly Venn Diagrams - PAC - dotted lines and solid lines of transactions going here and there.
What we will understand (or not), i guess is just abt what we believe we want out of something…?
Arz000n said,
June 21, 2006 at 6:02 pm
Relationships are meant to be broken…thats wht I learnt from ma past break ups…
Hmmm….Am I making any sense in here..aur you still not able to understand me??
I dont want to add to more confusion here…
Rohit Talwar said,
June 21, 2006 at 7:01 pm
Casablanca said everything.
Seriously, how are you SO good at expression? Ahem, that’s such an awesome quality. Everytime I read here, I am made to think. There’s just so much power in your lines. This post is one of the most powerful ones, goes without saying.
educatedunemployed said,
June 22, 2006 at 4:05 am
Atul Sabnis:
Are you saying, we understand what we want to understand,as that is what we want?
Then I would agree.Is there anything you don’t know about?
Arz000n:
No scope for further confusion is this muddled brain.But good try.:D
Rohit:
Thanks.I’ve said this before and I am saying this again.It is really what you percieve or what you want to think about; that makes my lines make sense to you.May be another day another time, it would all just be plain blabbering.
Ashish Pokharna said,
June 22, 2006 at 8:38 am
Hiya doing MG.
nice post…read your blog after a long time…awesome stuff…
what have u been upto these..will ring u up when in UK
tk care
ashish
lazy leo said,
June 22, 2006 at 3:02 pm
awesome post. i have a feeling that the older we get, the harder it is to deal with relationships….. we’re expected to be ‘grown-up’ and ‘understanding’….. but who on earth can be so perfect all the time??
ahhh…how i long for those idyllic childhood days where ‘crisis’ meant fighting over the window seat in the school bus!
Ginkgo said,
June 22, 2006 at 9:01 pm
I understand that….’ I didnt’.:-)
Rohit Talwar said,
June 22, 2006 at 10:25 pm
May be another day another time, it would all just be plain blabbering.
I doubt it.
educatedunemployed said,
June 23, 2006 at 4:14 am
Ashish:
Hiya,happy to know you still visit this blog.Life is good.Will await your call.You’ve promised several times now..You better.:)
Lazy Leo:
One doesn’t need to be perfect to deal with relationships, they need to be themselves, which I think gets harder as we grow up.It is when pretence creeps into our behaviour that all the misunderstandings crop up.
Ginkgo:
Well Said.:)
Rohit:
Hmmm,:)
greensatya said,
June 23, 2006 at 5:42 am
Further to addendum, I guess my comment is generic. It is true for all relationships. And as you pointed out one is always doomed to be hurt. This is a hard fact.
educatedunemployed said,
June 23, 2006 at 12:57 pm
Greensatya:
Sure..But why so bitter?
Rita said,
June 25, 2006 at 9:14 pm
I don’t know. I’ve never tried to define a relationship and put it down in words. But that works fine with me.